How to Stop Sugar Daddy Blackmail Scams
Sugar daddy blackmail occurs when a sugar baby leverages your secret against you, threatening to spill the beans about the relationship, intimacy, photos and more if you do not provide them with some cash/gifts.
That is a form of extortion. These have ways to stop the threats and protect yourself. Here's what you need to know.
How to Tell if Your Sugar Baby Might Blackmail You
Although not all sugar babies extort their sugar daddies, pay close attention to some behaviors that indicate potential abuse. Watch for signs like:
· Suddenly increased demands: Want more of your time, attention, intimacy; engage in guilt tripping or manipulation if you refuse
· Directly discussing blackmail: Statements such as “I have enough evidence to destroy your life” or “No one would believe you over me”
· Threats disguised as a joke: Saying things like “Be careful, I know where you live” followed with laughter or “Don’t screw me over or these pics will end up online” said in jest at first
· Inappropriate photos/videos: Strong-arming you for intimate media, stealthily recording encounters without your knowledge
· Verbal abuse: Demeaning names or put downs, particularly based on your looks, your intelligence, your talents or other positive aspects of your personality that give you confidence and independence
The abuse can gradually increase over time. Or a sugar daddy can suddenly become unpredictable after what he perceives as a slight or rejection. Either way, be on the lookout for these red flags that indicate you could be at risk.
Why Sugar Daddies Do Not Go to Police
Unfortunately, sugar daddies hesitate to include law enforcement for many reasons:
· Worry they’ll be judged: Sugar relationships still come with stigma. Some may say you “brought this upon yourself” by the nature of the arrangement.
· Fear of exposure: They may not want to face the public exposure and embarrassment of legal proceedings. Even if only details are kept private, it can feel shameful.
· Power imbalance: Your sugar baby is likely to have private information.
· Very little evidence: Since sugar relationships can include features that are unique, many of them (including a two-partner or orgy relationship) require private communication and verbal agreements. You might have scant evidence of the extortion.
· Skeptical law enforcement: Police might categorize sugar dating as “asking for trouble” and be disinclined to take allegations of blackmail seriously for that reason.
What to Do Now
Do Not Engage or Communicate with the Blackmailer
It’s normal to feel afraid, anxious, or want to simply give in to their demands. However, interacting with a blackmailer, or giving them what they want, usually only makes the threats escalate, and likely will not alleviate them.
The blackmailer is attempting to intimidate and control you. The response demonstrates that their tactics succeed and they will probably intimidate you more in the future.
If you do not respond to the blackmailer's advances, they become powerless. They want cash or power over you. Don't give it to them.
Do Not Pay the Blackmailer
It is understandable to want the threats to go away. But the threats rarely stop for good after paying a blackmailer. More frequently, it encourages them to ask for more money later.
It doesn’t matter if it is money, gifts or the sugar relationship continues; The answer to any payment is a confirmation that the blackmail worked. They are going to come back and want more down the road.
Do not pay them anything. If you have already paid them, pay nothing more. Until then, stop paying and do not respond.
Keep All the Evidence
Document everything - emails, texts, screenshots, photos, voicemails and everything else that might be considered evidence of the blackmail threats.
This evidence will be crucial if you have to bring law enforcement or an attorney to assist you. It also stops the blackmailer from deleting anything that might help police charge them with a crime.
Safely preserve:
· Screenshots of whatever messages are sent to you
· Photographs the blackmailer might have sent
· Audio or video files
· Any gift or money transfers to them
This breadcrumb trail provides a snapshot of the threats and demands made on you at different points in time. Back it up to a secure place in case your devices are hacked or broken.
Hire an Attorney to Review Your Case
In many circumstances, hiring an attorney benefits sugar daddy blackmail victims. Consult with a lawyer about possible legal ways to protect yourself, including keeping your information private.
You have rights – do not let that intimidate you into giving them money or power over you. Stop it now and defend yourself. Finding support and legal representation can protect you from additional harm.
